Spirituality does not cancel out sexuality

Why men eye their maids and secretaries. 

A young woman may look forward to sexual excitement and romantic adventures while single. 

But these desires gradually fade with time,  with age , with marriage with the coming of children and with career.  

 Once a woman is married she begins to gradually lose her appetite for sexual excitement. 

This cooling does not come overnight though,  it comes little by little,  little by little .

When children come , you lose more desire for sexual excitement. It fades even faster because she now finds  fulfillment in bonding with her children.  And you  know,  simply being a mother gives her excitement. At that time the man may begin to feel left out and unloved.  

So young women ... You   women in  late 30s begin to take note of this so that you don't abandon your husband in the course of loving your children.  

A woman in her 40s who has been married for like 10 to 20  years particularly may begin to feel less and less attracted to romantic adventures with her husband. Being  more captivated and desirous of time with children and career.  Women of today  are very hard-working and ambitious and enterprising.

 When such   women begin to look for business to do or to  pursue a cause,  maybe politics , ministry or  business ,  they become more bonded to the businesses so on one hand they are closer to their children on the other hand they are absorbed and overwhelmed by their businesses and so they begin to lose appetite for the man and for sexual excitement and romantic adventures. 

 Now flip the page

 Go to the man.  A man grows up to be sexually excited.  He grows up to find himself wired for sex,  wired for sexual excitement,  wired for whatever is sensual - and this feeling lives with him 24-hours in the day and  grows with him into old age. A man carries the desire for sexual adventure and excitement everywhere. 

He carries it into his business he carries it into his classroom he carries it into his job he carries it about into the bus , into the park , he carries it into his 40s into his 50s and 60s and 70s it never leaves him. 

Bill Clinton carried it into the White House. 

Some pastors carry it into the ministry. 

Therefore women should    understand men . 

You can't address a man until you undress (understand) him.  When you understand men generally , that way you would be able to properly love your husband,  give him what he wants having understood his needs.

A man marries mainly not just for love,  a man marries for sex .

The fact is , a man can get anything he wants outside marriage . A  very good man,  a godly man will get sex from his wife alone , but every other thing he can have somebody do for him.  Somebody can wash his clothes somebody can advise him somebody else can cook is food somebody else can do any of the things he wants apart from sex. 

Meanwhile a woman marries for love , status and provision..

As a wife the only advantage you have  over other women is your role as a sexual partner to your husband every other thing is an attachment that's why a woman , a wife must continually play the part effectively actively and with wisdom. 

In some cases wives give sex but not excitement. Now u are beginning to see my point. 

We totally discourage sexual unfaithfulness and and adultery. We cannot excuse it . But women need to wake up to reality and understand that your husbands don't really grow up. 

You need to remain sexually relevant. Give him his fantasies and expectations. Dress for him. Make him to look forward to having you to himself. Look good . Look young , look smart. And play the part in the bedroom . 

Don't be too busy for him.

A particular Christian female minister in Nigeria left her husband in the USA only for the man to fall into a sexual scandal with call girls. WOMAN, Go out with him. Don't leave a vacuum. 

 Spirituality does not erase sexuality.* Be visible in his office. Prepare and serve his food. Let nobody else cook for your husband except your children. Not even your sister. Your cousin is out of it. Let him take your food to the office. 

That man u despise is highly sought after outside the home and some are waiting for vacuums thro which they can enter . 

Men.... understand your sexualities and control yourself. You are vulnerable , give no place to Miss Angelina _de_ Seduzer . Discuss your needs with your wife. And insist. Leave no vacuum. Do not discuss your wife's failures with that lady. Be reasonable. Be content with your spouse. 

Ask God for grace , pray about every temptation. Above all don't trust yourself. Take your wife along. Make her visible, use her photos in your desk, DP's etc . 

Understand Yourself. Don't pretend to be superman. 

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